On Wednesdays we are thrilled to fling open the doors to all of YOU! We love hearing your dreaming stories…the lessons you’ve learned, the roads you’ve walked, the dreams He’s planted in your hearts! Today we are excited to welcome Aretha Tatum to God-sized Dreams. She reminds us that with God, nothing is impossible! Thanks for being here today, Aretha!
As a little girl I would dream about what my life would be like when I got older. My plan was to go to school, start some career, get married, have three children and live…you guessed it…happily ever after. Now here I am, approaching fifty years old; I have never been married and I have no children.
That was not the plan.
When I mention to people that I am not married, they ask me why not, and I can easily explain that I have not met the right man. Most people usually accept that answer and move on to the next question, usually, do you have any kids? When I say I don’t have any children, I often get a strange look, and then I hear the same response: You’re not married and you don’t have any children. What’s wrong? What are you waiting for?
You would think that if I haven’t found a man I want to marry, why would I have children with someone I wouldn’t marry? Suddenly, I become this strange person that some people feel bad for because, as a woman, it is understandable if you don’t have a husband. But, to be over forty with no children, you somehow have missed one of the major experiences of womanhood.
Sometimes you even question yourself. Why?
I remember being out on a date; he was a handsome man, about fifty years old, never married with no children. We were talking about marriage and children. I remember he said, “I can still have children if I want to.”
I said to him, “Sure you can; you are a man.”
He looked at me and said, “You can too, and don’t let anyone tell you differently.”
Sounds like a faith statement to me! Well, the Bible says in Luke 1:37, For with God nothing shall be impossible.
When I think about an empty womb, I remember several women in the Bible who had the issue of being barren…Sarah, Hannah and Elizabeth to name a few. Sarah gave her husband to her maid because she believed that was the only way she could have a child. Hannah was tormented by her husband’s other wife; as if not having a child wasn’t enough, she also had to deal with the “other” woman. Today, some women deal with low self-esteem or feeling like less than a woman.
At His appointed time He blessed Sarah and Elizabeth with children. These verses from The Message give us a picture of how God provided for these two women.
Is anything too hard for God? I’ll be back about this time next year and Sarah will have a baby.
God visited Sarah exactly as he said he would; God did to Sarah what he promised: Sarah became pregnant and gave Abraham a son in his old age and at the very time God had set. Abraham named him Isaac.
But the angel reassured him, “Don’t fear Zachariah. Your prayer has been heard. Elizabeth, your wife, will bear a son by you. You are to name him John.”
It wasn’t long before his wife, Elizabeth, conceived. She went off by herself for five months, relishing her pregnancy. “So, this is how God acts to remedy my unfortunate condition!” she said.
God has a plan for each of our lives…so if not having a child is God’s will for you, don’t let anyone make you feel as though you are less than a woman. However, unless you know this, don’t assume it is and keep expecting. One day, after I am married of course, I still plan on having a child. I know most people will think that is foolish thinking, but it is according to my faith, not anyone else’s unbelief.
I believe if God did it for Sarah, for Hannah, and for Elizabeth, He can do it for me!
Aretha “Ms Respect” Tatum was born and raised in Chicago, IL. She is a Minister, Author and Motivational Speaker. Writing was not her plan, but it was God’s plan. After several amazing encounters, she started writing books which talk about her supernatural experiences and share the Good News of Jesus Christ. She often warns people that her joy is overflowing and is contagious!!! You can connect with Aretha on her website, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
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