Welcome to our fourth installment of our Spring Book Club studying Alli Worthington’s Breaking Busy.
I hope you are enjoying it – I’d love to hear what you’re applying to your life and dreams after getting several chapters in. Today, we’re covering Chapters 5 (Thoughts) and 6 (Traditions).
In Chapter 5, Alli asks us what are we focusing on? Our fears and our flaws all too often. If that’s where our thoughts are, then that drives us to “be and do” more which creates a vicious “hamster wheel” of busy.
I don’t know if this hit you like it did me, but I love control and that can fuel all sorts of fear and worry.
“My worries were born out of my need to be in control, my desire to know what was next in my life, and a lack of gratitude for the grace he had already given me… Worry is different than anxiety. Anxiety is a deep sense of doom rooted in a fear that is often a lie from the Enemy. Anxiety cripples us and leaves us feeling incapable of escaping our situation. Worry, on the other hand, is our attempt to control the future.”
We have to cut out the worry stopping us from doing what God is calling us to do (and not to do).
So what to do?
Alli’s tips are to: abide in Christ (His voice is far kinder than our own), stay mindful, surround yourself with positive friends (their positive energy is contagious and can counteract a negative cycle), and focus on the discipline of gratitude (there’s a ton of research that proves this grateful daily mindset does wonders for your thoughts and your success as well!).
We live in a world of expectations. None more so than when it comes to traditions – whether that’s a Thanksgiving meal or a preschoolers birthday party. I know. I’ve lived, and failed, my share of traditions. Traditions need to add to our lives and not just pile on the busy stressors. As Chapter 6 says, “traditions done for the wrong reasons shackle us to unrealistic expectations and a whole lot of unnecessary busy work.”
Alli shares some wonderful tips for managing “traditions:” Drop (or don’t pick up) the traditions you don’t enjoy; look for a win-win solution (think carpools, swapping holidays, and the team approach for holidays); and give yourself permission to disappoint (you can’t always find a win-win!).
As always, Alli has short videos for Chapter 5 and 6 which give her insight on the chapter up close and personal.
So sound off. What do you do to short-circuit those damaging thoughts your inner voice can start up with? And what do you do about traditions and the ever increasing pressure of Pinterest and Instagram?
Share here or on Facebook and read Chapters 7 and 8 in preparation for next week’s installment.