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Learning To Say “No”

June 4, 2014 By Lisa Larson 12 Comments

“Y-E-S”

That tiny little word with a bellowing roar.

Those 3 letters seem to jump out of my mouth…sometimes while my insides cringe with despair. The load is already too heavy and I’m barely hanging on by a thread.

I have a hard time saying “NO.”

noMost of this comes from good intent. Inside my soul, I sincerely want to help others. I want to be supportive and pull my load in the church/community. And like any good mother, I want to give my kids every opportunity/advantage possible to keep them well-balanced and grounded.

But the flip side to this is….deep down, I also stress over how others are judging my every move. I can’t stand to disappoint anyone. And what would they think of me, if I said “NO?” I don’t want to be labeled the girl who can’t handle it.

But lately God has been opening my eyes to what I’ve been missing. He pointed out so blatantly, what I needed to hear…

When my heart is closest to the fear of what others think, it is furthest from the faith in the One who truly matters. (<====Click To Tweet.)

So I am learning to weigh everything against Him first…even the seemingly “good” things that come along.

Life is full of choices, and there are so many “good” options out there with promising results. But you can only spread yourself so thin, and in the end something’s always gotta give.

And sadly what gives is usually the people and things closest to your heart. If you don’t fight for the dreams He has given you and pursue those goals, other people will fill your time with theirs.

This morning I read from Colossians 3:23 {NIV} –

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.”

I realized that when I spread myself so thin, I’m not wholeheartedly giving my ALL to the Lord, or to the tasks He has placed in front of me.

As I’ve tried to adjust my viewpoint, here are a few things I’m learning:

Every life is in a different season.
What works for one person right now, may not work for me in this moment. The day-to-day life of a mama with young kids has different demands than the life of a retired grandma. Same as if you are working outside the home, juggling homeschooling, etc. We are all in different seasons of life and there is nothing wrong, better, or more holy about one versus the other. Different seasons enable us to do different things at different times. There is no shame in that.

Stop comparing my life/job/family to anyone else’s.
Comparison is the true thief of joy. And if someone else seems to have it all perfectly together, I can guarantee that behind closed doors ― they don’t. Their struggles are just as real, just as huge, and just as hard to bear.

Live intentionally.
This is a hard one for me as I’m a pretty spontaneous person. However, by not allowing myself to get sidetracked or distracted by the things that won’t/can’t/don’t help me accomplish my goals right now, I make much more progress long-term. Schedule, take baby steps, and prioritize.

It is not selfish to take care of my own body (in fact it might be the opposite).
Lots of stress + lack of sleep = migraines. And when that happens, it’s a no-brainer that I accomplish far less than I set out to when I push myself too hard.

I am not Wonder Woman.
As much as I wish I had Super-Hero powers that could pause time or that could dissolve laundry piles, I don’t. Some days dinner is late and meetings get skipped. But again, it’s okay. Life is unpredictable and often chaotic with kiddos, but they won’t always be little and I wouldn’t trade the dust in the corners, or the dishes in the kitchen sink, for a single night without them in my life.

Life is NOT a race against anyone else.
It is a journey, and we are meant to LIVE all of it…Every messy, amazing, mundane, glorious moment of it. Life should be cherished and celebrated! I don’t want to rush through what I can never get back.

So in the end, I am slowly learning to say “No”, so that I can wholeheartedly say “Yes” to what really matters. (<====Click To Tweet.)

What about you? Do you ever struggle with feeling like you have to do it all too?

Shared by: Lisa Larson

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About Lisa Larson

Lisa Larson is a whimsical city girl who believes dreams are worth chasing and walls are worth painting. She is married to the boy she’s loved since she was 14, and together they have 3 little kiddos. She knows all about living a life lost in darkness and having her dreams crushed by the daunting waves of fear. But she can also tell a tale of redemption and the bold courage God gives you to set sail and venture out, not knowing where the ocean might take you. True beauty comes from following your passions in Him, and living a life that awakens others to come alive. She writes at The Copper Anchor and can be found on Facebook and Twitter.

Comments

  1. AvatarMakeda says

    June 4, 2014 at 6:38 am

    This was a good reminder for me to read this morning. I read a quote recently that said if you’re saying yes to something, make sure you’re not saying no to yourself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I needed them for sure.

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    • Lisa LarsonLisa Larson says

      June 4, 2014 at 11:26 am

      Thanks for the encouragement, Makeda! Grateful you stopped by today 🙂

      Reply
  2. AvatarBecky says

    June 4, 2014 at 6:52 am

    I loved today’s devotion, Lisa. I have always been a person who said yes first, and wondered why I couldn’t say no later…All I can say is this was so what I needed to hear today…thank you!

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    • Lisa LarsonLisa Larson says

      June 4, 2014 at 11:29 am

      Becky, so grateful you could resonate with this! It’s so hard unbelievably hard to say “no” sometimes, isn’t it?

      Reply
  3. AvatarGeraldine says

    June 4, 2014 at 11:07 am

    For ever such a long time I did and this resulted in a situation in my old church getting out of hand. I was walked all over and abuse was allowed to carry on. Until one day God said enough and told me to say “No”. In the end it has resulted in a plea for honesty. I left that church only to suffer backlash. Only today I took the brave step of writing an open letter with that plea! I’m not not sure of the further backlash I’ll receive but I know this is something that I must do! My open letter can be found here http://geraldinejayne.blogspot.co.uk/2014/06/an-open-letter.html

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    • Lisa LarsonLisa Larson says

      June 4, 2014 at 12:17 pm

      Wow Geraldine, I popped over to your blog and read your letter. I can relate to it in so many ways. I’m so grateful you opened up and were brave enough to share your heart here today! Thank you!

      Reply
  4. MelMel says

    June 4, 2014 at 11:14 am

    Oh, friend…yes. (As in, the I-so-get-this, kind of yes.) 😉 It’s been a season of saying some hard no’s…but slowly, I’m seeing the gift of giving myself that freedom to invest in this season of life…especially in my husband and daughter. There are days when I wish my other dreams were moving faster, but I’m so thankful to be living these moments now. Love your words today!

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    • Lisa LarsonLisa Larson says

      June 4, 2014 at 12:20 pm

      Haha…yes, to your yes, my friend 🙂 So grateful for your words today and grateful you are finding freedom and peace in this season of life. These are the moments to be living!

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  5. AvatarChristine Wright says

    June 4, 2014 at 5:26 pm

    Thank you for sharing this Lisa! I think there are so many of us who needed to read it today. Truly an inspired word.

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    • Lisa LarsonLisa Larson says

      June 5, 2014 at 1:02 am

      Love you, Christine 🙂 Thanks for the encouragement!

      Reply
  6. AvatarKatie Reid says

    June 5, 2014 at 8:00 am

    Yes! Thank you for this. Been mulling over a post along these lines- thank you for writing it and for reminding us it’s okay and needed to say “no”.

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  7. AvatarSabra Penley says

    June 5, 2014 at 9:22 am

    This is wonderful, Lisa! “If you don’t fight for the dreams He has given you and pursue those goals, other people will fill your time with theirs.” Wow. Love that! It is so easy to get swept up in what everyone around me is doing and I’m left with little time for the things God has for me to do. Thanks for this great message and encouragement.

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