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Establishing your Tribe

June 27, 2016 By Kristin Smith 6 Comments

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If there is anything that I have learned about walking this dreaming journey, it would be that you MUST have a tribe to help you along the way.

Who is in our Tribe may differ for each of us.

For me, I have found a wonderful support system of women who are also on a similar journey. Brought together initially by the God-sized Dream Team, I found myself surrounded by women who seemed to “get” me.

The only negative? We all live so far away! 🙂

Thankfully we live in an age where technology helps the miles seem less of a hindrance, and things like Google Hangouts and Voxer easily connect us as often as we wish.

We can’t walk this road alone. It is too easy to be discouraged, and we need to surround ourselves with faithful friends who can be honest with us, and yet know just the right ways to encourage us. So how do you go about establishing a tribe?

The first step is often the most scary. Connecting.

I am an introvert through and through. I don’t trust people easily, but once I know you, I am all in. So how does one connect? For me it happened through the online experience of joining a book launch team. I would encourage you to first start in your local community, if you can. One on one time is so valuable, being able to connect with someone in your hometown or at your church is such a gift. At the time in 2012 I was new to my community, and way too scared to reach out in person. That’s why initially the online experience worked for me!

Now, several years later, I am also involved in a local bible study at my church and through that have established some friendships with women I can trust. So know that no way is perfect and you need to find what works best for you. The important point is to look for opportunities to connect.

Second, and also scary, is we need to be willing to be vulnerable.

When I first”met” the women on our book launch team I was cautious. I shared only what was necessary. I didn’t feel safe enough to be vulnerable. But at some point I realized that my need for community was greater than the fear I felt about being “found out.” I wanted everyone to think that I had it all together….but the reality was I didn’t. As we connect with others and begin to build friendships we become ready to drop the facades and start being real.

There is freedom in reaching that point. The place where you can be honest, and you find women who circle around you and encourage you despite your failures.

It didn’t come immediately for me, and it really was a result of my unwillingness to go there. But today I have a group of women that I can be honest with and they love me regardless of my mistakes. What a gift that has proven to be.

So you have found some women to connect with, started to be vulnerable….what’s next? Establish a prayer group.

I can’t emphasize enough how important prayer is in the dreaming journey.

I am reading through the book Fervent again for the 4th time. If you haven’t read it you need to. In the book it outlines ways to be more strategic about your prayer life. There are so many areas that we need prayer in as we chase God’s dreams for our lives. And we can’t do it alone.

I have a group of 3 other women that I have a “Prayer Voxer Chain” with. We mostly share the “big” prayers on this chain. Things that come up that seem extra urgent. When a message comes through we can trust that at least one other woman has seen the vox and will be in immediate prayer over the situation. Often times I don’t talk with these women except to share requests, offer prayer for their requests and celebrate the answered prayers we see as they come, but I would count them as some of my closest friends. We live in all parts of the country, but we unite in a common mission. To support and encourage one another in prayer.

Finally find that one person that you can really be encouraged by and be an encouragement to.

One of the biggest gifts of establishing a tribe has been a friendship that has developed with one of my dreamer sisters. While we live miles apart, we stay connected every day. She is the person that I can go to when life is feeling crazy. When I need advice, she will offer it. But always with the preface that I should pray about it and ultimately seek God’s direction. And she has spoken truth in love over me in those moments when I am choosing a path that isn’t God’s.

We genuinely celebrate each other’s accomplishments and support our respective dreams. She has become a safe place for me and I strive to do the same for her. Her friendship is invaluable to me and has developed over the years because I connected, became willing to be vulnerable and trusted her with my prayer requests. It is one of the many gifts that my tribe has been in my life.

God created us to be in relationship with one another.

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Walking the path of a dreamer can be a lonely place, but it doesn’t have to be. Committing to seeking and finding a tribe that can support you throughout your journey is one of the best ways to set yourself up for success. And the rewards you will gain in the process will be greater than you had ever hoped or imagined.

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Kristin Smith

About Kristin Smith

Kristin Anne Smith is a wife and mother, but most importantly, a daughter of the King—redeemed by His grace and so grateful. A woman who has struggled with fear and the lie of “not being good enough” for most of her life, Kristin has started to find freedom in the transforming work that only Jesus, prayer and a good Christian counselor can offer! She is a lover of words as a means to process life, and shares stories of her own faith journey to encourage others to seek and trust in God. Kristin blogs at The Riches of His Love and can be found on Facebook and Twitter.

Comments

  1. AvatarAshley Fields says

    June 27, 2016 at 5:18 am

    In my case, I think I have found at least part of my tribe and a connection has been established but everyone is so busy that with the exception of knowing I have prayer warriors offering up prayers when I express the need, we don’t connect much. Part of that is my fault because sometimes I have a hard time connecting even with those closest to me. Having said that, I lead a ministry through the church with two other women and right now, they are so busy (and eventually I will be over the top busy again myself) that even finding the time to meet once a month has proven impossible. At the moment, I am floundering a bit and honestly I am very lonely. If you have seen the Lord of the Rings movies, I feel like a bit like a ring-bearer when Galadriel tells Frodo that to be a bearer of a ring of power is to be alone.

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    • Avatarkasmith03 says

      June 27, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      Oh this is hard isn’t it?! Our pastor preached yesterday about how community can be hard and often times it is our busy schedule that is the biggest hindrance. Somehow we need to overcome don’t we?!

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  2. Avatarkristine says

    June 27, 2016 at 8:09 am

    Wonderful advice, Kristin! Isn’t it wonderful to see the movement of women seeking out others to encourage and pray for? You’re right though, it’s hard to take that first step in connecting with others – especially in person:) But it’s so worth it. Blessings!

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    • Avatarkasmith03 says

      June 27, 2016 at 12:48 pm

      So often as women we can do the opposite…it is so encouraging to hear stories of women banding together and being an encouragement to one another!

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  3. AvatarAnne says

    June 27, 2016 at 11:33 am

    I find I have more than one tribe. I have my tribe of friends connected to my kids activities, one for my work and one for everything else. I’m not trying to keep them separate but I love that no matter what I am doing, I have people in the circle that are with me. What a gift.

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    • Avatarkasmith03 says

      June 27, 2016 at 3:08 pm

      That is a gift!!

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