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Dealing with Criticism

March 14, 2016 By Kristin Smith 2 Comments

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I am the type of girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. Some may say I am oversensitive because I can take everything personally…even when it isn’t personal.

Have you been there? Worried about what someone might be thinking, if you’ve messed up, said or done something wrong? Positive that the negative comment on a blog or FB post was a direct reflection of you…and the image you see before you is a failure?

Criticism. It can be heartbreaking. And if we aren’t careful it can bring out the ugly in us.

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I once found myself in this very situation. Something that I had written upset a reader. I felt they responded in a harsh way and I was hurt.

Immediately, I got defensive. Did they read the entire post? Why couldn’t they see my heart behind it?! I wanted to respond and, if I’m honest, I wanted to retaliate. To defend my honor (I may be just a touch melodramatic)!

But I knew those feelings weren’t of God and so I stepped back for a moment. I paused.

I shared my hurts with a few close friends, women whom I could trust. These are women who I can go to and be honest with. Women who know my heart but also will speak truth to me as well. Women who give me constructive criticism when I need it.

And you know what?

Not a single woman said anything negative about the commenter. It can be easy to surround ourselves with people that will “trash talk” with us, bolster our negative attitudes…but these women? These women had hearts that modeled the love of Christ.

Instead of being critical, the response was one of prayer. We lifted up the person who had left the comment in prayer. And we prayed for our own hearts as well. We prayed that we would always be seeking God’s plan even if that means it results in some criticism. We prayed that our hearts would be open to receiving criticism when necessary and that we would not take things personally, but instead find ways to grow because of them.

This isn’t easy to do. Like I said my natural response is to fight back, to defend.

But God has been showing me that He will defend my honor when needed. Instead of fighting a fight that is not mine, I need to be seeking Him. I need to develop that auto response that is Christ-like.

Jesus was criticized all the time. But his response wasn’t one of defense, it was one of love.

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People will not always agree with us…Shocking, I know! 😉 but we are called to love regardless.

So what should you do next time you find yourself being criticized?

Pray! Bring your hurts, your questions, your concerns to God and ask for wisdom and clarification. Be willing to admit when you’re wrong and seek to offer grace when you have been wrongfully accused.

Love like Christ and you can walk away from any situation stronger. Misunderstood at times? Yep, probably, but when we respond in love we can walk in confidence, knowing that our actions are pleasing to God. We never know the hurts, the past, somebody else might be dealing with…So Love first.

Shared By: Kristin Smith

Original Photo Credit before edited: KWDesigns

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Filed Under: Stories from Dreamers, The Ups and Downs of Dreaming

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Kristin Smith

About Kristin Smith

Kristin Anne Smith is a wife and mother, but most importantly, a daughter of the King—redeemed by His grace and so grateful. A woman who has struggled with fear and the lie of “not being good enough” for most of her life, Kristin has started to find freedom in the transforming work that only Jesus, prayer and a good Christian counselor can offer! She is a lover of words as a means to process life, and shares stories of her own faith journey to encourage others to seek and trust in God. Kristin blogs at The Riches of His Love and can be found on Facebook and Twitter.

Comments

  1. AvatarElaine says

    March 29, 2016 at 10:24 am

    Kristin,
    This is hard – I am dealing with something – there’s a part of me that feels like God wants me to let it go; in the moment I did – because it felt like the timing of the criticism was straight from the enemy to bring me down, but because of who it came from (my dad) and how it didn’t seem sensitive in the way I need a sensitive voice, it is hard to let it go – and I could use some prayer. for quick resolution and to feel loved and have a great relationship with my dad. Also to be led by the Spirit and not how I feel. I don’t want to make something a big deal and give the enemy a foothold but I am struggling a bit right now. Thank you in advance for praying for me. I don’t want to stuff it but I don’t want to make something a big deal especially if talking about it more won’t help any.

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    • Avatarkasmith03 says

      March 29, 2016 at 10:42 am

      Elaine – I understand this type of situation so well and I am praying. Praying that God will give you discernment for when to let things go but also when or if you should also find a way to express the hurt that the criticism has caused. I struggle with “being a doormat” and letting people walk all over me emotionally, and at times the letting go feels like that. I also have to remember that God defends my honor and He is the one Father that I will stand before one day and my prayer is that He will be able to say “well done, good and faithful servant”….It is a hard road to walk at times, so please know you aren’t alone in this!! I don’t have the answers but am praying that God will reveal them to you!!

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