But you aren’t.
Have you been there?
Have you stood on the sidelines, secretly praying that your dreams would just happen already, and watching as it seems like everyone else around you is having their time?
It can hurt can’t it? At least it has for me.
I have struggled with jealousy for years. It started at a young age when a neighborhood friend always came to school in the newest Esprit and Guess fashions and I only had the knock-off brands.
It grew when I worked really hard to make the cheer leading team as a freshman and watched as my friends were chosen and I was not.
As a wife it worked its way out in the form of jealous comparison to others and their marriages. And as a mother, feeling as though my children didn’t sleep as well as, or potty train as quick as another mothers’.
In the online community, it can present itself in jealously over a viral blog post or the number of subscribers that someone else has.
However it may look for you, at some point we find ourselves comparing ourselves to others and when seeing our deficiencies, become jealous.
Jealously steals joy. (<==== Click to Tweet)
It robs us of our ability to see the good in our own lives and makes it nearly impossible to celebrate freely with another’s success.
This past October I had the opportunity to attend the Allume conference.
A blogging conference with 450 other dreamers. Women who are going somewhere, making an impact, fulfilling their dreams.
Knowing the tendency of my heart towards jealousy I was a little concerned about how I would react there. I was meeting some of my fellow God-Sized Dream team girls and many of these women, with God’s help, are experiencing huge open doors in their dream chasing.
I, on the other hand, am not really.
In fact, I don’t really know what my dream is or should be.
I used to think it was to write a book, or make money from my blog.
But it doesn’t feel like the right dream anymore.
So, where is my place in it all?
God changed my heart that weekend at Allume. He broke down the walls of jealousy and gave me a heart of joy for others. An honest heart of joy.
When I may have “faked” it before – I felt true happiness for others who were finding their dreams. I celebrated with them when their meeting with a book agent was successful. I had chills when I heard how God was moving in a mighty way, an impossible way, for a friend.
It was an amazing experience and one that I hope has changed me for good.
I found myself praying over them and encouraging them to remain brave, telling them how proud I was to be a part of their journey– if even on the sidelines.
Yes, everyone around me seemed to be moving forward faster than I am, but it is ok. I believe God has placed me where I am to be a cheerleader for others. While I didn’t make the team years ago in high school, God has a place for me on His team. (<==== Click to Tweet)
He has called me to dream big with others, to fight the battles in prayer and to cover them with support.
Maybe this is where God is calling you right now?
Maybe the reason your dream is at a standstill is because He needs to do some “heart work” in your life, like He has for me.
If you are stuck – start praying. Ask God to show you where He can best use you right now. Maybe your dream will be fulfilled down the road. He may even change your heart to an even better dream He has planned.
Stop comparing yourself to others and start celebrating the blessings you do have. In my experience it opened my eyes, and my heart, to learning to love others better.
And I have never been happier.
God has more room on His team, and this time the skirts aren’t too short. Will you join us?! (<==== Click to Tweet)
Shared by: Kristin Smith
Photo Credit: Beth Scupham