On Wednesdays we are thrilled to fling open the doors to all of YOU! We love hearing your dreaming stories…the lessons you’ve learned, the roads you’ve walked, the dreams He’s planted in your hearts! Today we are excited to welcome Patti Hemphill to God-sized Dreams. She shares some sage advice for the dreamer of any age! Thanks for being here today, Patti!
3b I have carried you since you left your mother’s womb. I carried you when you were born, 4 and I will still be carrying you when you are old. Your hair will turn gray, and I will still carry you. I made you, and I will carry you to safety.
There is a real danger of feeling useless and forgotten as we move into the last half of life. We teeter on the crest of Mount Middle Age, and then in a blink we’re crashing down to the Valley of the Shadow. Once there we look up to see boulders of wasted time, and scattered crevices of what could have been. Time has fled leaving behind landslides of pain, wrinkles and battle scars. And women, bless us all, become fearful of glancing in a mirror over long.
I can still recall thoughts I had in my youth about older women. Shame on me. How is it that some young girls think they’ll go through aging unscathed?
Dare I burst their bubble of denial?
By asking young women, “take note of my counsel?”
Take heed dear tweens and teens,
Young women, and all in between…
Flesh is fleeting but legacies aren’t,
Leave those you love with peace in their heart.
Above all, learn! Do well in school, focus, excel at something, dream and go for it! Don’t blindly stumble through life. If you have no parental guidance, you’re not alone, but you may have to try harder. Find someone to guide you…go now! If not parents, then church, it’s the best place to start. Seek out the youth pastor, preacher or a Sunday school teacher. If you’re still in school go to your guidance counselor or another trusted adult. But go! Learn all you can academically but more so about God. Learn His will for your life. Say yes to Jesus, your ultimate Guide. (<====Tweet this.)
Dress modestly…seriously, it doesn’t mean you have to wear a burlap sack …just be mindful of the message you’re sending out. You’re responsible for the impressions you make on people, protect yourself and your reputation. Being a temptress is not the answer. Save yourself for your husband. Don’t waste precious, once in a lifetime opportunities, that God lays before you. Be okay on your own before you get involved in a serious relationship.
When you do marry, marry a godly and stable man. One who will cherish and adore you. Your husband should be the spiritual head of his household and take care of his family. It’s your job to help him, hand in hand, side by side helping each other be all you can be. Relish being young, aging and change are inevitable. Change together, and don’t try to outrun each other. Grow in soul and spirit before taking on the most important role of being a parent. Enjoy your children from the moment of conception till always. Raise your kids up in God. Let them know they matter. Encourage, protect and nurture them, even if you never had that in your own youth. It’s your job and their right. The person they become depends on you!
And finally when your children spread their wings and leave home, age gracefully. Don’t beat yourself up when the signs of time start leaving marks, adorn yourself with them proudly. Don’t deny its happening. Aging is a gift! God will see you through till the end. Re-invent your marriage in this new phase of living. Talk to each other about aging. All of it. You’ll be surprised at how your man feels about it. The saying that time goes faster as we age is true. I’m telling you it’s true. (<====Tweet this.)
One day you yourself will crest Mount Middle Age. I beg of you, live to reduce your boulders of wasted time to pebbles. Decrease the number of those could have been crevices by not allowing the world to shake your foundation.
The Valley of the Shadow should be a peaceful place…where we fear no evil regret.
Photo Credit: A Guy Taking Pictures (some changes made)
Patti Hemphill is honored to be called a Christian. A sinner saved by grace, ever grateful for her salvation. She is the wife of her best friend Lee and they reside in eastern TN. They’re parents of two grown sons and grandparents of two beloved grandchildren. The epitome of the title, “Jack of all Trades and Master of None,” she’s come to realize that writing has always been part of who she is. Like a friend that’s always been there. After retirement Patti and Lee hope to RV full time for awhile before landing somewhere for the final chapter.
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